The word being can be defined as existence, or the essence and nature of a person. But simply existing is not living. YOU DESERVE MORE!
At Someday Wellness, BEING means tapping into your truest nature and self so that you can live your best life. A life that is not just eating, breathing, and sleeping, but a life that is joyful, inspired, and loving. When an individual knows oneself, the path to wellness becomes more clearly defined. You uncover what your natural tendencies are so you know what is needed to help you reach your goals. You develop freedom from judgement of others and live openly and unafraid of condemnation.
You can go to the gym without worrying about who is watching you because you know that you, and your beautiful body were created by God and therefore are entirely worth loving. You can take time off from work and spend time with your children, because you understand that checking every single box on a to-do list and losing your soul while doing it, is not how God intended you to live. You can skip down the sidewalk with a smile on your face, letting your joy spill over unto others just because you are free! Free from guilt, free from worldly pressure, free from other people’s opinions.
The word BE is the present participle of being. That means that your being-- who you are-- is not defined by what you do. Take that in.
WHO YOU ARE IS NOT DEFINED BY WHAT YOU DO
There is nothing that you can earn or add to your being, it is simply who you are. Do we have any Moana fans out there? This movie is a staple in our households and the entire plotline branches from knowing one’s self. There are two songs in the movie that you can always revert back to. The first is I Am Moana (Song of the Ancestor) and the second is Know Who You Are. Both dig deep in terms of a self that is devoid of titles and accomplishments; a self that originated in the womb and that was perhaps influenced and molded by experience, but not changed into new being; a self that is intricately woven into history; a self that is pursued and spoken to by a higher being; a self that suffers and comes back stronger each and every time.
The tricky part is that your being is constantly being influenced by the world around you. Various organizations list 7 to 9 Dimensions of Wellness, all of which impact your overall wellness and ability to live as your truest self. Each dimension is worthy of your attention, and we will touch on them all!
That being said, we chose MIND-BODY-BEING because your being and the raw gifts, talents, and natures of the self are the centerpiece of all of these other things. We believe that a key point in BEING is to know one’s self. To know one’s self, you have to know God, and to know God, you have to know one’s self, for the two cannot be separated.
Read Psalms 139 and you will see exactly what we mean!
HOW DO I DISCOVER WHO I AM?
Most children know exactly who they are though they discover more of themselves as they grow older. Adults however are often different. Adults tend to squelch a lot of their natural tendencies as they develop. Think changing the way you wear your hair because some girl in middle school told you “bangs are stupid,” or not wearing a certain type of clothing because society told you it wasn’t modest enough, or it wasn’t revealing enough.
For many of us, over time our imaginations because squashed, our free spirit becomes broken, and we find ourselves living day-to-day concerned more about what other people will think of us than focusing on what really matters: that God already loves us. There are no instantaneous tricks to knowing who you are, but rather it’s a process of discovering and uncovering what is already there.
Here are some tips.
BE STILL- Silence. Take a much needed break from technology. Yes, that includes music too. Sit in silence and wrestle those inner demons that you so often distract yourself from. Silence is one of the most powerful tools you have access to.
JOURNAL- It can even be two sentences every day in an app on your phone. Pencil and paper is probably better, but don’t take on something you can’t maintain. Look back to discover patterns about how or what you are feeling and recognize sources of negative energy and stress. Think about what gives you positive energy. Let God speak to you through your pen.
GRATITUDE- if you reflect on what you are gracious for each and every day, you will learn what is important to you and what you value most. We highly recommend the Gratitude Journal App. You can do it in 60 seconds before you get out of your car before/after work, while you’re breastfeeding, or just before bed. Need directions on what to be grateful for check out these 55 gratitude questions.
MEDITATION/YOGA- low intensity with a focus on your breath, your surroundings, how your body feels, and an innate awareness of discomforts, anxieties, or feelings of peace. Where do they stem from? There are several guided meditation apps you can try out. For yoga, a personal favorite is with Adrian. She’s a little goofy, but hey, so are we. Bonus? It’s free and she has lots of 30 day options that ease you into the practice.
THE EXAMEN- The root of Ignatian spirituality and an awesome way to end your day! Help you to go back through your day and identify where God was in the midst of not only the beauty, but the chaos. You can learn more about the Examen here
A great site/app for a guiden examen we enourage you to visit can be found HERE
SPIRITUAL DIRECTION- with the right spiritual director, this can transform your life! Kylie goes once a month and considers it therapy for the soul.
PERSONALITY ASSESSMENTS- Strengthsfinder, Enneagram, Myers Briggs, or a quick and simple 4-tendencies quiz are great starting points and awesome ways for you to better learn how to relate to other people.
PRAYER WALK/RUN- pray the rosary, a divine mercy chaplet, or simply bask in the beauty of God’s creation. Pray with a specific intention in mind, ask for guidance and see where your mind will take you.
ADORATION- there is nothing like spending quality time with Jesus
You may have lost sight of who you are, but we promise that person is in there. Like a flowing river you will bend and twist with the obstacles of life, but you will remain water no matter how far you get from your original state. Polluted, frozen, floating in the clouds or in a raging river, water is water and it will never be any less of a water molecule simply because it’s been altered. You too cannot be changed or loved any less in your being no matter how you have been altered by a life that has probably beaten you down one too many times.
And remember this-- even the water in your toilet can become clean enough to drink again... Discover your being and discover where God is leading your SOMEDAY. We are here to help, so reach out and let us help you, take control.